The Power of Presence: Why Men Are Essential to Early Learning
By: Dr. Keon N. Berry, Director of Parent Services at Quality Care for Children
Each day, I am convinced I work in the best field in the world!
There is no greater joy than serving in early childhood education and ensuring that families have access to the early learning and care their children need. Across the state of Georgia, I witness how mothers and fathers – together and separately -- support the needs of their children. As we celebrate Father’s Day this month, I want to recognize the firsthand impact that involved fathers have on their children's lives, and how the work they do elevates the lives of their families every day.
The importance of fatherhood and male involvement in the early years of a child’s life cannot be overstated, which is why we are lifting up our dads and male role models by recognizing their efforts and providing suggestions on how they can continue to nurture the father-child bond. For instance, regular routines that include father-child activities such as participating in bedtime routines, helping with homework, or sharing meals together provide fathers opportunities to interact where the child feels valued and supported. Fathers play an important role in their children's development, and fostering a loving environment, coupled with their participation in their children’s education, benefits the entire family.
The Gravity of Fatherhood
Research has consistently shown that children with engaged fathers are more likely to excel academically, exhibit prosocial behaviors, and have greater self-esteem at an early age. However, the role of fathers in child-rearing is often underestimated, particularly in early childhood settings with children ages birth to 5.
It is essential to dispel myths and strive for inclusive learning and social environments of belonging that welcome and encourage fathers' involvement with their infants and young children. Fathers want to be involved in their children's lives, but they, like many mothers, often face barriers that can make active participation challenging. Let’s face it: mental health hurdles, work commitments, complicated relationships, societal expectations, and sometimes, even the structure of early childhood programs can inadvertently exclude fathers. To increase opportunities for father involvement, it is crucial to acknowledge the barriers that fathers face while working towards creating a culture that embraces and supports fatherly and male involvement.
Creating Meaningful Connections
We want to help fathers form deep and meaningful connections with their children by actively participating in their early learning. Here are some tips for fathers to think about this June as we take the time to reflect on the impact and involvement of men in their child’s early learning:
Work-life balance: Establish strong boundaries between work and home life. Avoid bringing work items home that may distract you from quality time with your children. Know your child's schedule of important school dates, such as conferences, presentations, awards ceremonies, and sports events, and mark these dates on your calendar.
Quality Time Over Quantity: Focus on the quality of time spent with your children by being present in those moments. Whether reading a book together, horseplaying, or simply talking about their day, these small, consistent interactions build a strong foundation of trust and connection.
Schedule "Me Time": Dedicate time each week for activities that relax and rejuvenate you, whether exercising or just pursuing a hobby.
Communicate with Employers: Do not be afraid to discuss flexible working hours with your employer or find remote work options that better accommodate family needs. Maintaining a healthy rapport with your child's stakeholders, such as teachers and caregivers, is another essential aspect of being an engaged father. Regular communication with child care center staff, attending parent-teacher conferences, and seeking opportunities to volunteer in the classroom are all ways to stay involved and show your child that their education is a priority.
Adequate Rest: Prioritize sleeping and ensure you get enough rest. Fatherhood can be challenging at times. A well-rested mind and body are crucial for handling daily responsibilities effectively without overworking yourself.
Seek Support: Men often don’t seek the help they need. Don’t hesitate to reach out for someone to talk to in uncertain times. Counseling or therapy can provide valuable strategies for managing stressors and maintaining mental health.
The role of fathers and father figures in early childhood education is too indispensable to overlook. Balancing so many responsibilities can often be a significant challenge for a father. However, with intentional planning and prioritization, fathers can find the right balance between work, family, and life.
At Quality Care for Children, we are committed to uplifting the importance of fatherhood and male inclusion in early childhood education. These efforts contribute to a nurturing and supportive environment that benefits the child's overall development and well-being, allowing them to thrive and reach their full potential!
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